It’s hardly necessary to point out how difficult it is to meet other lesbians for social and sexual encounters. It’s easier in some communities than in others. Smaller or more conservative areas suffer from either a scarcity of persons to connect with or a fear of ridicule. But even big cities have their challenges, and even though people might expect a lot of lesbians in big cities to be “out,” the difficulties of navigating a large metropolis complicates the problem of finding love, #sex, and social acceptance.
So how does one go about finding other gay women with whom to connect and have friendships or romantic interludes? The answer is far more favorable today than it was 20 years ago, thanks to the existence of Adult Social Networks that cater to the LGTBQ demographic. It’s not always easy to simply get involved in interesting activities and hope someone of your sexual orientation will also be interested. It’s better to have a way of actively seeking out those people that share your interests and your sexual orientation.
Filters—which help you select the features you’d like in a partner or match—are not exactly an organic meeting experience, but they help a lot. This is what social networks provide, especially now that the internet has been refined and dating sites have apps that can be more thoroughly integrated into our everyday lives.
HER is an app that provides social networking for lesbians, and its developers and administrators work hard to make it a healthy space where people can be open about their desires for sex and partnership. Many users are tired of dating sites that pretend to cater to lesbians and still provide guys in their match list. It’s often the case that such sites will provide a female match who merely wants someone to tag along on a threesome with her and her man.
HER’s social-media dating app is dedicated to creating a space that’s truly for lesbians, so that once you get connected, all you have to worry about is finding a niche based on your interests. HER is a very large network of 4 million members worldwide, and was made “for queer womxn, by queer womxn.” This means once you select your label—female, non-binary, gender-fluid, etc.—and identify your interests, you’ll have a lot of genuine matches to choose from.
The site doesn’t actually allow active searches, though, preferring to allow users to message only friends and people chosen as matches by the system. However, other Adult Social Networks, such as Plenty of Fish and SAF Social, provide search functions to support your hunt for other lesbians who share your interests. This increases your chances of finding someone you’ll actually enjoy spending time with. Plenty of Fish and SAFSocial cater to a broader user base, but they still create havens for women to meet other women. Plus, SAF Social has a “Lesbians and Bi-Sexual Women Sanctuary” to make the process of finding partnerships easier.
To use a cliché—it’s really a jungle out there for any woman looking for love, and especially a lesbian trying to open up socially and sexually without being inundated by unwanted attention from guys. Adult networks that know how to cater to the LGBTQ community are key to creating a life that satisfies your personal desire for love and companionship.